This is one of the most common problems that men encounter when
they are trying to pick up women - how exactly does one ask a woman for a
dance?
Ask any of your peers and they might give you any number of suggestions.
While there might be some good answers that you might get out of conventional wisdom, the reality is that no answer is the right answer to this type of question. You see, this is really a trick question.
It assumes that you should ask the woman for a dance in the first place, but the fact of the matter is that no matter how you ask her, you are just setting yourself up for a failure because:
Naturally, for this method to work, you need to pick a girl who is already dancing. After that, you just need to get on the dance floor yourself - which is easy if you're pretty savvy on your feet. If you feel a little shy, get some friends to start dancing with you so that you don't have any inhibitions.
What is great about this technique is that most women do not find it offensive if you start dancing with them when they are already on the dance floor. Therefore, once you see an opportunity, just move in and start dancing with the woman that you have chosen.
There are some rules of etiquette even on the dance floor. When you start out on the dance floor, simply dance opposite your target without touching her. The ideal distance is around 25 inches - this might seem like a lot, but it is enough for the woman to notice you as long as you keep your body pointed in her direction while dancing.
This is when you will get a chance to gauge her reaction to your advances:
If she accepts your offer:
Then you've got it made. You should know how to handle it from here. You can then start to get a little bit more intimate and initiate physical contact - don't be all touchy-feely though. Perhaps you can reach for her hand and have her twirl around and once you're really in the rhythm and she seems okay with it, you can move in even closer.
If she refuses you:
You will notice this right away since she might move away from you or just give you an expression that she doesn't want to dance with you. She might have her own reasons for rejecting you and you don't have to think too deeply about this. On the plus side, no one ever has to notice you getting rejected and you can simply pretend that nothing happened and keep dancing and perhaps find another more receptive target.
Ask any of your peers and they might give you any number of suggestions.
While there might be some good answers that you might get out of conventional wisdom, the reality is that no answer is the right answer to this type of question. You see, this is really a trick question.
It assumes that you should ask the woman for a dance in the first place, but the fact of the matter is that no matter how you ask her, you are just setting yourself up for a failure because:
- You make things awkward by asking: You are making things awkward and embarrassing by asking her out and calling attention to the two of you unnecessarily.
- She can refuse you: Through the act of asking, you are actually putting your neck out on the line because now you have given her the option to refuse your offer.
- You are making yourself vulnerable: As already mentioned, you are putting your neck out on the line and if you get rejected, you are making yourself vulnerable to getting your feelings hurt and your ego damaged. You definitely do not want your attempt to dance with someone to become an emotionally-scarring experience.
Naturally, for this method to work, you need to pick a girl who is already dancing. After that, you just need to get on the dance floor yourself - which is easy if you're pretty savvy on your feet. If you feel a little shy, get some friends to start dancing with you so that you don't have any inhibitions.
What is great about this technique is that most women do not find it offensive if you start dancing with them when they are already on the dance floor. Therefore, once you see an opportunity, just move in and start dancing with the woman that you have chosen.
There are some rules of etiquette even on the dance floor. When you start out on the dance floor, simply dance opposite your target without touching her. The ideal distance is around 25 inches - this might seem like a lot, but it is enough for the woman to notice you as long as you keep your body pointed in her direction while dancing.
This is when you will get a chance to gauge her reaction to your advances:
If she accepts your offer:
Then you've got it made. You should know how to handle it from here. You can then start to get a little bit more intimate and initiate physical contact - don't be all touchy-feely though. Perhaps you can reach for her hand and have her twirl around and once you're really in the rhythm and she seems okay with it, you can move in even closer.
If she refuses you:
You will notice this right away since she might move away from you or just give you an expression that she doesn't want to dance with you. She might have her own reasons for rejecting you and you don't have to think too deeply about this. On the plus side, no one ever has to notice you getting rejected and you can simply pretend that nothing happened and keep dancing and perhaps find another more receptive target.
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